When writing, we want our characters to have depth, a sense of non-conformity yet remain within the distinctive ranks of their gender. We did not wish to lie about what makes them who they are. Being a male and female writing team gave us an advantage. One of us would often tell the other, "A man/woman would not act that way." Once, for the fun of it and to wade into the truth of the yin and yang of the gender diversities, they created a list, with a bit of help from Google of ten things that differ between a man and a woman.
- Ask a woman how she stubbed her toe and she'll say she walked into a chair, ask a man and he'll say someone left a chair in the middle of the room.
- An English professor wrote the words, "Woman without her man is nothing" on the blackboard and directed the students to punctuate it correctly.
The men wrote: "Woman, without her man, is nothing."
The women wrote: "Woman! Without her, man is nothing."
- Man has his will, but woman has her way. (Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.)
- A man is as good as he has to be, and a woman is as bad as she dares. (Elbert Hubbard)
- A man thinks he knows, but a woman knows better. (Chinese proverb)
- Men always want to be a woman's first love, women like to be a man's last romance. (Oscar Wilde)
- Men are taught to apologize for their weaknesses, women for their strengths. (Lois Wyse)
- She says, "He forgets stuff I tell him, so I have to repeat myself over and over again."
He says, "She nags me."
- Women always worry about the things that men forget; men always worry about the things women remember.
- REMOTE CONTROL
Female.... A device for changing from one TV channel to another.
Male... A device for scanning through all 375 channels every 5 minutes.
Though humorous, there is a lot of truth in these quotes and thoughts. Men and women simply see life different. Men are usually more global, women usually live in the details. Yet there is a commonality when love exists, that special tenderness expressed to the other when no one is around, that first realization that crackles and explodes when one realizes they are in love, the emotions that surround the birth of a child, the ache when there is loss.
Though our stories always have a decisive plot, a story that can almost overpower the romance, the romance is there in truth, in the reality of emotions, in the thoughts and impulses that real men and women experience. We might lie when it comes to that perfect bosom that exists without cellulite, or that tree-trunk thick manly thighs that rarely exists outside bodybuilders and photo enhancement, but we never lie about emotions.
So the crux of this blog is to celebrate those difference, enjoy them, tease about them but never forget as much as we are different, we are the same where it counts, our humanity.
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