Monday, April 30, 2012

Trying to Find a Balance by R.J.Hore

I have been thinking a lot about balance lately because some days I feel like a juggler. When I worked full time at a stressful job, my writing fell behind, and except for Business Writing, almost faded away. When I left work, I could devote myself full time to my love of writing fiction. That seemed to work: I won first prize in a national short story contest for a romantic ghost story, had a vampire story accepted for an anthology, and now have one fantasy novel, The Dark Lady, published by BURST Books, and two novellas picked up for future dates.
I frequently comment now, “I don’t know how I ever found time to work.”

We have a backyard that can occupy a lot of my time, yet I never find a minute to pull up a chair and sit in the sun. We have a sailboat, involving a fair amount of preparation to get ready in the spring, and put away in the fall, yet instead of relaxing in the cockpit with a book, or pounding on the keyboard, I seem to have a need to be doing always “something” rather than “nothing.” Some sins are self-inflicted?

There are many other reasons I find to become busy, from  chores around the house, washing cars, family affairs like birthdays and BBQs, grandchildren’s basketball games, and local volunteer work.

Then there is my writing. I used to comment that I could write a complete novel while waiting for the next rejection letter. Now I realize something that I have suspected, getting published is just one of the many steps in this writing career. I have much to learn about “social media” and promoting, and the business side of e-writing. Recently it is my writing which seems to be suffering. Where I used to dash off a couple of chapters before lunch, now I worry for hours over a paragraph; not good when I’m trying to create a sequel for Dark Lady. The bottom line on this brain dump, is that writers have to find a balance, make time so that we can share ourselves with the others we are close to, while still leaving time for what we love to do, the actual physical act of writing. I write because I want to find out what happens next. Why do you write? 

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Big Mike said...

Agree Ronnie. About 4 years ago I got smacked in the face with the realization I was swamped, especially in the area of promoting my books. Every month I'd read about another wonder promo avenue yet there was no prove whether it worked or not. I decided to conduct a data base experiment where each time I ran a new promo activity I'd collect actual data on its effectiveness. Over a 2 year period the results were very enlightened in terms of what worked and what didn't. From 24 promo arrows in my quiver I culled back to about 8, yet my sells tripled. If you'd like to see an article I published on a Ezine check our "Self promo: what works/what doesn't" on my website I also confirmed the results with several author buds and budettes.

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Author of the Year (2008 and 2009)
Award of Excellence (2011)

Julie Eberhart Painter said...

The promotion is on the heavy side of the scale. It's hard to balance. Maybe their is none.

Ute Carbone said...

Balance is the toughest part of this gig, I think. Promo has taken up much of my time in the last year, mostly because of a steep learning curve--I knew nothing about it and am now starting to figure it out. It's a work in progress. I'm still trying to figure it out. Or to find a patron who will pay me to sit and write-- a girl can dream, can't she?

January Bain said...

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